By Leo Babauta
Iâ€™ve worked with a number of people who want more spaciousness in their lives â€” more time for rest, play, reading, reflecting, self-care, hanging with friends and other loved ones.
The challenge isnâ€™t that itâ€™s hard to create more time (for some people, it is actually very hard) â€¦ the challenge is that no matter how much time we have, we are not likely to experience it as spacious, restful, joyful, playful.
We can create all the time in the world â€¦ but the truth is that weâ€™ll probably have a very similar experience in that spacious time that we have already. If you take a sabbatical, youâ€™ll probably experience some spaciousness for a little bit, but then restlessness and fears will start to take over, and youâ€™ll create a lot of things for yourself to do, and a feeling that you need to be productive (for example).
Whatever you experience already â€¦ is likely to be what youâ€™ll experience no matter how you arrange your life.
The real spaciousness you crave isnâ€™t in rearranging your life (though that can be helpful) â€¦ itâ€™s in changing how you experience life.
Letâ€™s take a look at how you can do that.
A Spacious Experience of Life
No matter what weâ€™re doing, we can experience it as rushed and stressful â€¦ or we can experience it as spacious and peaceful. Or really we can have any kind of experience of the activity.
For example â€¦ if youâ€™re out for a walk, you can be on your phone checking messages and feeling the anxiousness of all the things you still need to do. Or you can experience the spacioiusness of the walk, feeling expansive wonder about all the nature around you, feeling the freedom of being outdoors and being alive.
In any moment, we can experience spaciousness. Whether youâ€™re responding to messages and emails, writing, washing a dish, talking to someone, sitting in on a meeting, doing something courageous and inspired â€¦ you can experience it as spacious.
The thing to recognize is that itâ€™s a choice. You can choose to feel anxious and rushed in any moment, or to feel expansive and spacious and at peace. You get to choose your experience of any moment.
As you practice moment to moment, you can expand how spacious your life feels as a whole. You go from feeling constantly rushed and behind â€¦ to feeling life as abundant, free and much more peaceful.
How to Practice
So how do you practice this miraculous way to create spaciousness in your life? Itâ€™s all yours for the low price of $500 â€¦ kidding!
Try to practice right now, as you read this â€¦
- Take a moment to sit still and allow your awareness to expand outward, so that you feel more expansive.
- Allow your breath to be deeper and wider, so you feel a spacious nourishing breath.
- Allow yourself to feel as wide as the sky, so that all of life feels expansive and spacious.
- Allow yourself to slow down for a moment, so that life feels more spread out and delicious.
This is the kind of practice you can do in any moment, with any activity. You donâ€™t have to do all 4 of these steps, but you can try whatever helps you to feel spaciousness, peace, freedom and expansiveness in each moment.
Try moving a little slower, so you arenâ€™t so rushed.
Try savoring each moment.
Try imagining that you can do anything within a wide open fresh expanse of the universe.
What would it be like if your life could be experienced with greater spaciousness?
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